Combating Rejection With Force

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Have you ever approached a woman and she immediately swatted you away which made you feel smaller then an ant? If you are a person that pursues woman, chances are you’ve experienced some form of rejection. Being rejected isn’t the best feeling in the world considering that the woman you approached was someone you could see yourself with. Therefore, my colleagues and I have developed a powerful tool which will help you combat rejection which plagues many of us.

It is my belief that if a person is equipped with the right tools to combat rejection, you will then be able to shift that negitive energy into positive energy which in return can make them feel stupid. According to the woman I’ve encountered the typical responses I’ve received when woman attempted to reject me was; “I’m having a bad day”, “I have a boyfriend,” “I’m gay,” ” I’m just with my ladies trying to have a good time.”

These canned rejections are so prevalent in our society that they come second nature to woman because we us meaning the males never have the rebuttles to make them feel silly at their own game. Here is one of many solutions we subscribe to at pickup kings. First and foremost, when we approach woman, we do not come off as pick-up artist which most ladies hate because a lot of them have no originality. Therefore, when we approach the ladies, we come off as men who is truly interested in conversating or asking a question which will reduce the chances of them being rude. Here is a sample dialoge to what I am suggesting looks like and how I make rebuttal’s to their innital attitudes:

PUK: Excuse me, I am looking to find building _______ do you know if you can direct me to that area?

Lady: I’m sorry, I have a boyfriend.

PUK: Wow that is pretty nice to know. However, that wasn’t the information I was looking for. I was wondering if you knew how I can find this building.

Lady: Oh I’m sorry. There are a lot of guys out there that like to use game thinking it would work on me.

PUK: (smiling) well I can see your a tough walnut to crack. Hopefully you don’t preform no martial arts on me or anything because I have a promising future.

Lady: (laughing) so do you you usually come up and ask girls questions like this all the time? is that apart of your game?

PUK: As you can tell I don’t have a lick of game. What’s wrong with a gentleman asking a question? Hopefully I don’t get struck by lighting or anything by asking a question.

Lady: You are a funny guy

PUK: Thanks. I find your innitial response a little funny as well. You seem really nice how about we have some coffee sometime?

Lady: See I was right. (smiling). You are a pick up guy huh?

PUK: Not at all. I just like your personality. You have every right to say no. And plus, wouldn’t you want to have a friend like myself that can keep you smiling all the time making you feel like a million bucks?

Lady: Sure why not. Hopefully your not some crazy psycho or something.

PUK: Last time I checked I was pretty sane.

Lady: Well here is my number###-###-####

PUK: Cool. I guess I will call you soon. Nice meeting you

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The Icebreaker

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Professional Conversation Starters, Business Settings(1) Describe a typical day on the job. (2) How did you come up with this idea? (3) What got you started in this industry? (4) What do you enjoy most about your profession? (5) What go you interested??? You may have to adapt the conversation starters to tailor it to the specific institution or event.

First Date Conversation Starters: (1) What do you think of the movie (Insert title)/ restaurant/ party? (2) Tell me about the best vacation you’ve ever had/taken. (3) What’s our favorite thing to do on a rainy day? (4) What was it like in the town you grew up? (5) What do you think is the perfect age??? This is just a brief sample of the massive archive of conversation starters. Adding these to your arsenal can very well make you the life of the party. Try not to sound too scripted, as if you have rehearsed. You want to be extemporaneous, come across as natural and fluid.

Public Encounters, Conversation Starters With Complete Strangers: (1) What a beautiful day. What’s your favorite season of the year? (2) Do you have any New Year’s resolutions? (3) Your lawn always looks so green. What’s your secret? (4) I like your blouse, where did you get it? (5) How do you plan to celebrate the holidays??? At a Wedding: “I was the groom’s college roommate. How do you know the couple?” At a Seminar, or Convention, or Function simply ask: “What brought you here?” At your place of work: “We’ve been working together for months now. I’d like to get to know you better. Tell me about some of your outside interests…”

As a reminder, you don’t want to sound as if you have memorized lines of a script. When you speak, you don’t want to sound as if you are reading. You have to be creative, take these ideas and modify them to suit your personality, demeanor, and self-image. Most of all be natural. I have just provided an incomplete sample list from over a hundred icebreakers, conversation starters, and situational comments. I have a lot more that I have collected over the year, and some of them are truly priceless. Above are a few completely free of charge. Enjoy and practice the game wisely.

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club_dancing.jpgOne of the areas that the pick up community tends to avoid like the plague is dance floor opening and attraction techniques. Most people avoid this aspect of the game because they feel like you need to be some super talented dancer to pull anything from the dance floor. In actuality this is far from the truth, and with a little bit of practice you can conquer what has been called by some, the El dorado of pickup.

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There are three basic principles you need to internalize when you’re on the dance floor

  • Never stand by yourself on a dance floor
  • Make eye contact then open
  • Never linger without acting

Lets go over each of these points to foster an understanding of each.

Never stand by yourself on a dance floor – Social proof is critical in dance floor game. The ultimate destoyer of social proof is standing alone on the dance floor looking on or scanning the scene. This doesn’t make you look cool, it mkes you look creepy. It doesn’t matter if you have a drink in your hand you still look creepy. If you came with friends, stand by them and feign a conversation if you’re on the dance floor. If you’re by yourself go to the bar area and run regular attraction material to win over and move a set from the bar to the dance floor. Both of these actions will give you a launch pad and home base to come back to as you launch your dance openers throughout the night.

Making eye contact – This rule is less absolute for younger ages (18 – 20) but is an absolute must for older ages (21+). It’s kind of difficult to explain the right way to do this without pictures or diagrams but you want to try to incite a glance without staring. People naturally glance at objects or things that they perceive are looking at them. Try looking slightly to the left of someones temple (bait) when you’re walking by them at the mall or supermarket. They’ll look at you first to see if you’re looking at them (bit) but realize that you’re not, but in that moment you turn your head right at them and catch them looking at you (caught) and meet them with a genuine smile. Not only will they feel a tad bit guilty for staring, but your smile will disarm them enough to start a conversation. On the dance floor this technique is essential to making the approach feel both natural and spontaneous. You want to position yourself and your group ~ 45- 75 degrees from the straight field of vision of your prospect (i’ll probably draw a diagram for this). It’ll take a while to master but making and locking eye contact with prospects immediately before approaching broadcasts that you’re an alpha who isn’t afraid of taking what he wants after he’s seen it.

Never linger- Many of you are familiar with the three second rule in bar and daytime game. On the dance floor you have 1 to 2 seconds to act after establishing eye contact or else you need to reset (both in positioning, timing, and target). By giving you and your target such a limited time window you decrease the chances of both you and target making excuses on why you shouldn’t dance. Net net, the more you fight those internal demons the greater chance of rejection ;-)

Next post- Dance Floor Game – Part 2 – The Silent Opener

~Profit

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So you dropped your killer opener, it flies marvelously, you scan the set and engage your target by asking-

“So… where are you guys coming from tonight”
or
“So… what do you do”

All of a sudden your target seems less engaged and eye codes to her friends for an out…

I’m sure many of us have noticed a sizable drop in energy when a conversation shifts from the observational (this DJ sucks) or the theoretical (who lies more guys or girls) to something more pedestrian like what do you do, or where do you work.

Why?

For the most part, people go out to get away from their day to day, directly asking a prospect about her school, background, or career early in the engagement is total buzz kill, especially, as is often the case, what she does is not what she’s passionate about. Not only that, but questions like these telegraph too much interest. Why should you care about where she came from or what she does? At this point in the pick-up all that matters is that she’s right in front of you having a conversation with you. These questions should be reserved for later on in the pick-up after attraction is generated and the focus shifts from manufacturing interest to generating comfort and rapport.

Instead of moving to these logical, yet unimportant questions your focus your energies on creating a party atmosphere. Your goal during the early pick up should be to generate interest and/or intrigue. Stack your set with a game (e.g strawberry fields, five questions), a challenge/banter (negs, friendly teasing, joking), or a cold read (e.g. Ring or palm reading). Continue stacking hard until you start getting the indicators of interest that suggest she’s ready for rapport building and seduction.

If anything SHE should be the one that switches the tone of the conversation from the party atmosphere to the mundane interview questions signifying HER interest in getting to know the puppet master behind the strings.
-Profit

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The Reverse Cockblock

I witnessed the effects of something that almost defied logic this weekend- The reverse cockblock.

I’m sure all of us have been in a position where someone or something gets in the way of our gaming. It could be a mother hen, jealous girlfriend, or a crappy DJ. Collectively, these obstacles are called cock blocks and they serve to hinder game by throwing sarcastic remarks, setting the wrong tone, or otherwise throw you off your game.

But what if a statement perceived as cockblock served to build more attraction? Enter the reverse cockblock.

Here’s how it works

PUA and his wing opens a set and PUA isolates his target, while his wing rolls off. PUA builds decent rapport and excuses himself (to the bathroom, to make a call, buy a drink whatever, it doesn’t matter). PUA’s Wing then swoops in and drops the following dialog:

Wing: Hey what’s up, i see you and person A are getting along (to target)
Target: Yeah, he’s cool
Wing: Well, i don’t mean to hate or anything, don’t get your hopes up, he talks to a lot of girls, and even if he gets your phone number he probably won’t call.
Target: (shocked): ook
Wing: Yeah, I’m a nice guy and you seem like you’re really into him so I’m just letting you know
Target: uhh, ok, thanks
Wing: Anyway I gotta bounce ;-)

What’s key in the reverse cock block is the reason for disqualification. In order to work, the PUA needs to be disqualified because of his ability to get and charm girls. When the interaction resumes the PUA should not direct address what the wing said unless the target brings it up. If she doesn’t bring it up and continues the dialog, it’s money, she’ll be flattered that the PUA is continuing to talk to her despite his ‘player’ reputation. Continue to game and increase attraction and close.

If she does bring it up, she’s showing insecurity and it’s a great time to qualify her. Address it head on, say something to the effect of “Yes, I do chat with a lot of girls, but there was something special about you that makes me want to talk to YOU tonight instead of anyone else here.” Move on and continue to game.

This is a FIELD TESTED technique, but it’s still in the midst of testing this at different points in the game cycle. I’ve seen this done Modified where it’s performed at the end of a cycle after the PUA #closes. This allows to have your wing increase her surprise/receptiveness when the PUA actually calls her the next day.

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Lets be clear. When you have a prospect on deck there has to be a good connection between the two in order for you to hit it on the first date. What works for me is when I take a girl out to a full date (dinner, bowling, etc,) I demonstrate a lot of value by making her laugh, making her feel comfortable , and listening to the various stupid shit that woman like to talk about. After were done hanging out, I ask them if they would be intrested in watching a movie or something at my house. Once their at my place, this is the steps I take in making magic happen.

1. Making sure the room is nice and clean. Before i even leave my house going on a date, I make sure my place is clean because i know its a great chance i’ll be asking them to come.

2. Being patient. Dont be so thirsty because you got some pussy in your room. Relax a bit. laugh with her and share a couple of jokes. After shes feeling loose and comfortable, take her to a place where theres privacy such as a room or something.

3. The Movie- From there, proceed to putting on a movie preferbily something that would grab her attention. IE no American Pie. Put on something with a little bit of action maybe some with some sex.

4. Move 1. Den the lights. Once the lights is denned, make sure you move close to her so theres some friction happening.

5. Move 2. Put your arm around her slowly. From this point on, if shes really comfortable with you, she’ll embrace it. Once she embraces that arm, its on.

6. Move 3. Go for the kiss. Once the kiss is estblished, and if your good, her body will be hot as hell and the temperture will be rising.

7. Move 4. Lastly, kiss on the neck and offer to go for a massage and from that point on, you should know what to do.

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For one reason or another, a lot of woman try to use the phrase “I have a boyfriend” to get you to stop talking to them. Based on trial and error, I discovered the best way to combat this is to simply not mention her relationship stuatus during the course of a conversation, and simplying rebuttling her if she comes off rude by saying ” I have a boyfriend before you even get a chance to run your routine. You will suprised to find out over a course of a laugh or two that shes simply trying to filter out the trash that comes her way by using the boyfriend defense. Most men buying into that crap and simply give up. Personally if its not my friends or family girl friend, I’m going for the throat.

If your going rapid fire aka playing the number game, here is some important rebuttles just in case they use the boyfriend defense before you get a chance to run your routine.

1. Who mentioned something about a boyfriend? I’m just out trying to have a good time.

2. I didn’t ask you about your problem, however, if you need a shoulder to lean on, i’ll be more then happy to provide my side to you.

3. Do you really? thats great because I have a girlfriend. I was just approching you because you look like someone I went to school with.

4. Boyfriend huh? thats good because he stole you away from a championship team ( and you look at her like you hinting about yourself.)

-Hajji

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Do The Clothes Make The Man?

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Approaching random woman is like approaching job employers. Their the same in the sense that your looking for something right? You wouldn’t go into a job interview wearing a shirt that says “single and loving it right? Instead you will wear something appropriate that you feel might give you a shot at working for the company. These same rules apply when talking to woman. You have to approach them dressed to impressed so when you leave that conversation, she can at lease admire your sense of style.

Believe it or not when females talk to one another, they ask plenty of questions. Depending on the girl your pursuing, she would most likely ask her friend questions about your looks, style, and confidence. Because clothes are indicators of all above, I strongly recommend you wear clothes that reflect a good sense of style, because it will let them know your confident about your style.

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Playing the friend is a very tactile approach to winning the girl/s you want. The reason being is these ladies are constantly approached by men, and while these men might be great pick up artist, they make the fatal mistake of being to direct which makes it a lot easier for the lady not to answer her phone when he calls her again. While playing the friend role may seem like its a cop out, think of it like this, once you get to know the girl and she appreciates your presence, it would be a lot harder for her to release you after being her friend’, compared to a random guy who tells her how beautiful she is and how much he wants to be with her.

Here is some key openers for opening and closing for in regards to Friend game: (After the club)

PUK: Did you like the DJ tonight?  The music was alright but I didn’t like how he mixed it.

Target: I personally thought he was alright but hey, that’s my opinion.

PUK: On a better note, My name is Hajji and you?

Target: My name is Nicole

Puk: Pinch me if I’m wrong but you seem like a kind of girl who enjoys long walks on the beach. Is this true.

Target: Well, I do like the beach but i can do without the long walks which means i owe you a pinch.

PUK: Hahaha well most times my intuitions are accurate. Even Micheal Jordan misses shots.

Puk: You seem really cool. I would love to keep you as a friend so we can continue a good chat or two about things other then long walks on sandy beaches.

Target: You seem great and all, but I just got out of a relationship.

PUK: That’s fine. Before you be anything with anyone, you have to be a friend right? That was my intentions all along. To be your friend.

Target: Alright but only as friends…. Here is my number. Give me a ring.

Break down:

Although she gave me her number, being her friend has the possibility of opening many doors including a love life. First and foremost, you have to let the girl know that there is attraction between you and her, but friendship is what your after.

When it time to hang out, display your best qualities. Once this happens, she will admire that and when the time is ripe, the door will open for you.

Don’t be to aggressive. You will chase the butterfly away.

-Hajji

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There are men out there who believes that you can get all the girls you want by using universal game. Trust me, this is completely false. For each group of woman, ethnically speaking, you have to have a certain kind of appeal to reach to them. In the case of the Latina, I will outline my great formula that should get you the results I have gotten over the years with the group of woman we all love, the Latinas.

1. It would be your best interest to understand a little something about latin music. For example, Cumbia, Raggaeton, Salsa, Etc, these are all popular latin genres that a lot of these ladies love. If they don’t if you are a famailar with a few artist and a couple of songs, you will be looked upon as someone cultural who understands them.

2. Learning a few steps in salsa. I’m not asking you to go out of your way to learn how to salsa dance. But if you know the basics steps to salsa you will get some play.

3. Be able to identify and understand somethings about their culture. Not every Latina is a Mexican. For all of the latin ladies I’ve spoken to, they were very impressed to know that I was able to identify their capital once they told me where their from. Trust me, if you are able to know a little something, it will take you a long way, I personally gureentee!

4. Learn a little Spanish! You don’t have to be a spanish expert or anything, but if you can display a few phrases, it can take you into a decent conversation.

Here is an example of this hottie i pulled on a nice 4th of july night

PUK: I see you burning it up on the dance floor, where you learn those moves from?

Target: I guess I learned from my parents

PUK: Wow, your parents taught you well, hopefully with a few classes and a nice warm hug, I’ll be on the right track.

PUK: By the way, where your from?

Target: I’m Puerto Rican

PUK: I see, no wonder i notice you had that salsa movement going on. Where you from in Puerto Rico?

Target: I am from Ponce

PUK: great city, I heard so much from San Juan and the Mayuguez area.

Target: Wow you know a lot about my country. How do you know so much?

PUK: Well I’m a man of adventure so I love to explore new places.

PUK: You seem like your really cool. would it be alright if we can keep in touch?

Target: Sure

PUK: Cual es tu numero de telefono?

Target: ooo you know a little spanish huh?

PUK: I try. :)

Number pulled

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