The Silent Opener

So now that you have preserved as much social value as you can by not breaking any of the cardinal rules of dance floor game what’s next? The opener. The Silent Opener would probably be more accurately described as the the nonverbal opener because it relies exclusively on nonverbal cues to communicate dominance and assertiveness.

There are two forms of silent openers that my colleagues and I perform on the dance floor; ‘the bait and reel’ and ‘the pound.’

Bait and reel
The bait and reel is the simplest form of dance floor opener, in fact, it is the method you are most likely to see so-call natural performing in a club. You’ve seen it before, a totally random guy walking right up to a girl and initiating a dance without saying a single word. What seems like magic is no more than several intentional actions that project dominance and assertiveness to a players target.

• The Bait
  Described before the bait involves inciting eye contact with a target in a way which seems serendipitous. Glance slight to the left or the right of your target to try to catch a glance, once she’s bitten the bait, turn your head to her and acknowledge her glance.

• The Approach
  Smile warmly, lock eye contact and approach with purpose. Try to walk in the straightest line possible towards her. Do not smile like a creep or a kid being tickled, but instead give the impression that you’re mildly amused by her being entranced by you. The amazing thing about this is that as long as eye contact is locked before you start moving, you’ll be able to approach from any distance. Optimum is about 10 to 15 feet, but I’ve walked longer distances without eye contact being loss.

• The Initiation
  On your approach take mental note of where her hands are. Once you’re one to one and a half feet away from her, take her hand lift it up and spin her around. The entire process is so alpha she’ll be thinking more about how not to mess it up than about who you are and why she shouldn’t dance with you.

Pound and Spin
Although this move is a bit gimmicky it can be used in situations where you do not have enough social proof to do a standard approach or with very good looking girls or sets that otherwise would blow out a direct approach. In situations where my social proof has been reset or not as high as I would like for whatever reason, I use the Pound and Spin to reestablish myself. This method is especially good at breaking open dance circles of girls.

• The Approach
  Walk up to the set with high energy and confidence and move directly to your target. Lean over and ‘confide’ in a person who is not your target to ‘watch this’

• The Initiation
  Stick your fist out like you are about to give some props and make eye contact with your target. Wait expectantly for her to put two and two together. She’ll usually slowly perform the prop action without any additional goading or prompting on your part. After the prop action is taken, maintain eye contact as you hold her hand and elevate it to the ceiling. After both of your hands are above her head, spin her around and commence dancing. Like the direct approach above, the entire motion should be smooth, and when performed properly comes off as super alpha.

These two initiation openers are guaranteed to open any set 90-97 percent of the time if performed correctly. One thing I’d add is that when you are doing either you need to divorce your self from the result and simply be in the moment. Even if you got shot down moments ago clear all that from you mind and think about presenting positive energy. Personally, the only times these openers work is when I have self doubt or apprehensions about opening. When I separate myself from the end result and focus on putting a positive confident approach out there positive results follow.

Next Post- Dance Game – Part 3 – Escalation

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Have you ever approached a woman and she immediately swatted you away which made you feel smaller then an ant? If you are a person that pursues woman, chances are you’ve experienced some form of rejection. Being rejected isn’t the best feeling in the world considering that the woman you approached was someone you could see yourself with. Therefore, my colleagues and I have developed a powerful tool which will help you combat rejection which plagues many of us.

It is my belief that if a person is equipped with the right tools to combat rejection, you will then be able to shift that negitive energy into positive energy which in return can make them feel stupid. According to the woman I’ve encountered the typical responses I’ve received when woman attempted to reject me was; “I’m having a bad day”, “I have a boyfriend,” “I’m gay,” ” I’m just with my ladies trying to have a good time.”

These canned rejections are so prevalent in our society that they come second nature to woman because we us meaning the males never have the rebuttles to make them feel silly at their own game. Here is one of many solutions we subscribe to at pickup kings. First and foremost, when we approach woman, we do not come off as pick-up artist which most ladies hate because a lot of them have no originality. Therefore, when we approach the ladies, we come off as men who is truly interested in conversating or asking a question which will reduce the chances of them being rude. Here is a sample dialoge to what I am suggesting looks like and how I make rebuttal’s to their innital attitudes:

PUK: Excuse me, I am looking to find building _______ do you know if you can direct me to that area?

Lady: I’m sorry, I have a boyfriend.

PUK: Wow that is pretty nice to know. However, that wasn’t the information I was looking for. I was wondering if you knew how I can find this building.

Lady: Oh I’m sorry. There are a lot of guys out there that like to use game thinking it would work on me.

PUK: (smiling) well I can see your a tough walnut to crack. Hopefully you don’t preform no martial arts on me or anything because I have a promising future.

Lady: (laughing) so do you you usually come up and ask girls questions like this all the time? is that apart of your game?

PUK: As you can tell I don’t have a lick of game. What’s wrong with a gentleman asking a question? Hopefully I don’t get struck by lighting or anything by asking a question.

Lady: You are a funny guy

PUK: Thanks. I find your innitial response a little funny as well. You seem really nice how about we have some coffee sometime?

Lady: See I was right. (smiling). You are a pick up guy huh?

PUK: Not at all. I just like your personality. You have every right to say no. And plus, wouldn’t you want to have a friend like myself that can keep you smiling all the time making you feel like a million bucks?

Lady: Sure why not. Hopefully your not some crazy psycho or something.

PUK: Last time I checked I was pretty sane.

Lady: Well here is my number###-###-####

PUK: Cool. I guess I will call you soon. Nice meeting you

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Professional Conversation Starters, Business Settings(1) Describe a typical day on the job. (2) How did you come up with this idea? (3) What got you started in this industry? (4) What do you enjoy most about your profession? (5) What go you interested??? You may have to adapt the conversation starters to tailor it to the specific institution or event.

First Date Conversation Starters: (1) What do you think of the movie (Insert title)/ restaurant/ party? (2) Tell me about the best vacation you’ve ever had/taken. (3) What’s our favorite thing to do on a rainy day? (4) What was it like in the town you grew up? (5) What do you think is the perfect age??? This is just a brief sample of the massive archive of conversation starters. Adding these to your arsenal can very well make you the life of the party. Try not to sound too scripted, as if you have rehearsed. You want to be extemporaneous, come across as natural and fluid.

Public Encounters, Conversation Starters With Complete Strangers: (1) What a beautiful day. What’s your favorite season of the year? (2) Do you have any New Year’s resolutions? (3) Your lawn always looks so green. What’s your secret? (4) I like your blouse, where did you get it? (5) How do you plan to celebrate the holidays??? At a Wedding: “I was the groom’s college roommate. How do you know the couple?” At a Seminar, or Convention, or Function simply ask: “What brought you here?” At your place of work: “We’ve been working together for months now. I’d like to get to know you better. Tell me about some of your outside interests…”

As a reminder, you don’t want to sound as if you have memorized lines of a script. When you speak, you don’t want to sound as if you are reading. You have to be creative, take these ideas and modify them to suit your personality, demeanor, and self-image. Most of all be natural. I have just provided an incomplete sample list from over a hundred icebreakers, conversation starters, and situational comments. I have a lot more that I have collected over the year, and some of them are truly priceless. Above are a few completely free of charge. Enjoy and practice the game wisely.

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One of the areas that the pick up community tends to avoid like the plague is dance floor opening and attraction techniques. Most people avoid this aspect of the game because they feel like you need to be some super talented dancer to pull anything from the dance floor. In actuality this is far from the truth, and with a little bit of practice you can conquer what has been called by some, the El dorado of pickup.

Dance Floor Rules of Thumb
There are three basic principles you need to internalize when you’re on the dance floor

• Never stand by yourself on a dance floor
• Make eye contact then open
• Never linger without acting

Lets go over each of these points to foster an understanding of each.

Never stand by yourself on a dance floor – Social proof is critical in dance floor game. The ultimate destoyer of social proof is standing alone on the dance floor looking on or scanning the scene. This doesn’t make you look cool, it mkes you look creepy. It doesn’t matter if you have a drink in your hand you still look creepy. If you came with friends, stand by them and feign a conversation if you’re on the dance floor. If you’re by yourself go to the bar area and run regular attraction material to win over and move a set from the bar to the dance floor. Both of these actions will give you a launch pad and home base to come back to as you launch your dance openers throughout the night.

Making eye contact – This rule is less absolute for younger ages (18 – 20) but is an absolute must for older ages (21+). It’s kind of difficult to explain the right way to do this without pictures or diagrams but you want to try to incite a glance without staring. People naturally glance at objects or things that they perceive are looking at them. Try looking slightly to the left of someones temple (bait) when you’re walking by them at the mall or supermarket. They’ll look at you first to see if you’re looking at them (bit) but realize that you’re not, but in that moment you turn your head right at them and catch them looking at you (caught) and meet them with a genuine smile. Not only will they feel a tad bit guilty for staring, but your smile will disarm them enough to start a conversation. On the dance floor this technique is essential to making the approach feel both natural and spontaneous. You want to position yourself and your group ~ 45- 75 degrees from the straight field of vision of your prospect (i’ll probably draw a diagram for this). It’ll take a while to master but making and locking eye contact with prospects immediately before approaching broadcasts that you’re an alpha who isn’t afraid of taking what he wants after he’s seen it.

Never linger- Many of you are familiar with the three second rule in bar and daytime game. On the dance floor you have 1 to 2 seconds to act after establishing eye contact or else you need to reset (both in positioning, timing, and target). By giving you and your target such a limited time window you decrease the chances of both you and target making excuses on why you shouldn’t dance. Net net, the more you fight those internal demons the greater chance of rejection

Next post- Dance Floor Game – Part 2 – The Silent Opener

~Profit

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